What your habits are saying about you.
Ok, so I once read that it takes 21 days to form a habit. I tried to write a story about that a few years ago for a magazine, but couldn’t find why that number of days – 21 – worked so well. Luckily, New York Times business reporter, Charles Duhigg, didn’t give up so easily.
He’s written a book about how to use habits to your advantage titled, The Power of Habit: Why we do what we do in life and business (Random House 2012).
Here’s a quick video about Duhigg’s research on habits, which he’s clearly become an expert on, through his years as a journalist for one of the biggest and most wildly-read papers on Earth.
Hm. If I wrote a book based on my expertise as a fitness reporter, it would probably be something like, “391 ways to work your gluteus maximus and still walk up the stairs” or “484 ways to prepare chicken before AND after your workout” or maybe a memoir called, “How working out and writing about working out can come ‘this close’ to making you cry”….
What would your “expert” book be about?
video via freshbooks.
365Grateful.com
There is so much garbage on the Internet. But sometimes there are nuggets worth investing a few minutes in. This video – about the 365Grateful project – is one of those times.
I’m not a fan of “self help” and wasn’t one of the people who started a “Gratitude Journal” when Oprah did, but I am someone who, like the woman in the video, has felt that empty feeling, even when my life has been full.
Sometimes these feelings just have to pass through you, run their course. And in those times, it helps to focus on the small and good things that can slowly help fill you back up again….
via design mom.
When to give it away for free.
I ask myself this question often: when is it okay to give away my work for free?
I started to get paid at the outset of my writing life. I was an editor at my university paper for three years, which was a paid editorial job. The days (and many, many nights) were long and the money wasn’t much for the hours we put in, but what I earned in skills and experience and relationships more than made up for it. I would have done that job for nothing and still felt like I walked away rich.
Lucky for me, I learned early on that my writing was worth something, even if it wasn’t much in the beginning. But there are times when this rule can be bent, slightly.
Here’s my personal list:
-For the good friend strapped for cash who has a great idea and could really use some great words to communicate that;
-For your immediate family (can’t tell you how many resumes and essays I’ve read over the years);
-For a barter exchange, which, I should warn, can be tricky, since the value of time and skills are subjective. But it can work;
-And, finally, when the opportunity is so enormous that you’d be a fool not to take it, like The New York Times needs a writer asap, but has no extra budget this month… um, take the job. But these are rare opportunities and, unfortunately, because most people who approach you will have “the best idea ever” but no capital to pay you with, be very aware of companies, start-up magazines, blogs or people that want to work with you…but have no money. It happens all the time, especially here in Toronto, and especially with the explosion of online writing.
Decide early on what your bottom line is when it comes to writing: are you looking for exposure to millions of readers and just a chance to write for a reason every day? Or do you want this to be what you do for work – as in, your bread and butter? Making this distinction is important, since the lines can get blurred very quickly. Be clear on how you want to be perceived as a writer, because it counts.
To sum it up: when it comes to getting paid for your writing, the first person you’re going to have to sell is yourself. If you manage to convince yourself that your work is worth something (and being honest about this isn’t easy – this takes time, usually) then it’s the first big step in considering your writing “worth it” and determining when it is a good time, if ever, to give it away for free.
I wish you good luck and confidence,
-sandy.
home is where your heart is, they say.
My friend Matt posted a great video today. It’s about home.
What is “home” anyway? What defines our definition of “home” and do we ever allow that definition to change? If we do, according to the man in this video, the only thing you stand to gain is quality of life.
Sounds good to me. Enjoy this video – it’s around 6 minutes and worth it.
-sandy.
