Comments on: Stick it to me, baby. http://reinventingsandyb.com/2010/02/22/stick-it-to-me-baby/ Mon, 06 Feb 2012 15:56:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Lorie M http://reinventingsandyb.com/2010/02/22/stick-it-to-me-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-1046 Lorie M Mon, 01 Mar 2010 00:23:43 +0000 http://reinventingsandyb.com/?p=1246#comment-1046 I'm tickled to read your response and glad you enjoyed my comment (aw shucks). I really like your writing and many observations here on your blog. I'll be around more, indeed! I’m tickled to read your response and glad you enjoyed my comment (aw shucks). I really like your writing and many observations here on your blog. I’ll be around more, indeed!

]]> By: sandyb http://reinventingsandyb.com/2010/02/22/stick-it-to-me-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-1034 sandyb Sun, 28 Feb 2010 13:42:01 +0000 http://reinventingsandyb.com/?p=1246#comment-1034 Lorie, I read this on my BlackBerry this morning and couldn't wait to reply... this was an awesome comment. I mean, you hit it right on the head. My mom told me something similar - she said that, for the first six years of her marriage, kids were not on her mind. Then, she had that 'ping' moment. She woke up one morning and said out loud, "I want a baby..." I was born the next year. I know that my urge will come the same way. That's how it happened with marriage. I was a "not me, not married" girl for years, even after being with my boyfriend (now husband) for eight years. We even lived together. Then, one day, I just felt... ready. I loved reading your experience and hope you'll come back soon and share again. THIS is what I love about blogging - the conversation. Lorie, I read this on my BlackBerry this morning and couldn’t wait to reply… this was an awesome comment. I mean, you hit it right on the head. My mom told me something similar – she said that, for the first six years of her marriage, kids were not on her mind. Then, she had that ‘ping’ moment. She woke up one morning and said out loud, “I want a baby…” I was born the next year. I know that my urge will come the same way. That’s how it happened with marriage. I was a “not me, not married” girl for years, even after being with my boyfriend (now husband) for eight years. We even lived together. Then, one day, I just felt… ready.

I loved reading your experience and hope you’ll come back soon and share again. THIS is what I love about blogging – the conversation.

]]> By: Lorie M http://reinventingsandyb.com/2010/02/22/stick-it-to-me-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-1033 Lorie M Sun, 28 Feb 2010 04:33:51 +0000 http://reinventingsandyb.com/?p=1246#comment-1033 On April 12, 2007, my husband and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary. On April 17, 2007, we welcomed our first and only child, a daughter. I was 41. For years, we just weren't interested in becoming parents - we had too many other interests! :) After I turned 37, I had an unexpected "ping" of my biological clock. I was line producing a documentary for which we were shooting footage in a high school auditorium. There were close to 1000 excited parents, family members, and friends awaiting the debuts of the 100+ kids performing "Hello Dolly" that night. It was the first time I ever empathized with the audience instead of the performers. A small voice in my head piped up and said, 'I'd like a baby.' I came home, told my husband, and wondered if it was something I ate. For the next 6 months, I learned just how many of my friends and family members who were my age and older (with kids and without kids) had experienced the same "ping" in their late 30s. I'd had no idea so many women had had the same experience as me at about the same age. I'm glad I'm an older mom. I know myself better now than I did ten years ago, and I'm more at peace with where I'm at. I'm glad I had such a long period of being married before parenthood came along, too. Becoming parents doesn't just change your life; it completely obliterates what was, and replaces it with something new. I'm happy to have had such a long "baseline" with my husband before we needed to (continually) adapt as parents. If and when parenthood feels desirable to you, I hope you experience as much unexpected joy in it as I have! In the meantime, PLEASE sleep in late for me (a lot), stay up late watching trashy tv or reading magazines, drink too many iced mochas, hug your sweetie without worrying about whether you have any string cheese for snacks tomorrow, and revel in all the finished sentences you utter every single day! On April 12, 2007, my husband and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary. On April 17, 2007, we welcomed our first and only child, a daughter. I was 41. For years, we just weren’t interested in becoming parents – we had too many other interests! :)

After I turned 37, I had an unexpected “ping” of my biological clock. I was line producing a documentary for which we were shooting footage in a high school auditorium. There were close to 1000 excited parents, family members, and friends awaiting the debuts of the 100+ kids performing “Hello Dolly” that night. It was the first time I ever empathized with the audience instead of the performers. A small voice in my head piped up and said, ‘I’d like a baby.’ I came home, told my husband, and wondered if it was something I ate.

For the next 6 months, I learned just how many of my friends and family members who were my age and older (with kids and without kids) had experienced the same “ping” in their late 30s. I’d had no idea so many women had had the same experience as me at about the same age.

I’m glad I’m an older mom. I know myself better now than I did ten years ago, and I’m more at peace with where I’m at. I’m glad I had such a long period of being married before parenthood came along, too. Becoming parents doesn’t just change your life; it completely obliterates what was, and replaces it with something new. I’m happy to have had such a long “baseline” with my husband before we needed to (continually) adapt as parents.

If and when parenthood feels desirable to you, I hope you experience as much unexpected joy in it as I have!

In the meantime, PLEASE sleep in late for me (a lot), stay up late watching trashy tv or reading magazines, drink too many iced mochas, hug your sweetie without worrying about whether you have any string cheese for snacks tomorrow, and revel in all the finished sentences you utter every single day!

]]> By: That Kind Of Girl http://reinventingsandyb.com/2010/02/22/stick-it-to-me-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-988 That Kind Of Girl Thu, 25 Feb 2010 06:16:28 +0000 http://reinventingsandyb.com/?p=1246#comment-988 Sandy, GET OUT OF MY HEAD! I finally had a mo on my home computer to catch up on blogs and I read this post right after writing someone a guest post -- ABOUT JUST-IN-CASE PREGNANCY TESTS! That's eerie, dude. And congratulations on being not-a-mommy yet. You're so young! You at least need to skydive first. Sandy, GET OUT OF MY HEAD! I finally had a mo on my home computer to catch up on blogs and I read this post right after writing someone a guest post — ABOUT JUST-IN-CASE PREGNANCY TESTS!

That’s eerie, dude.

And congratulations on being not-a-mommy yet. You’re so young! You at least need to skydive first.

]]> By: Alexandra http://reinventingsandyb.com/2010/02/22/stick-it-to-me-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-961 Alexandra Wed, 24 Feb 2010 04:06:42 +0000 http://reinventingsandyb.com/?p=1246#comment-961 I agree with you. I love our independent life, and I feel that we have so many things to enjoy as a couple, first, before having kids, that I just don't want to rush things just for the sake of it. I already have 2 girlfriends who are pregnant (they're 26, just like me) and I'm happy for them, but I wouldn't trade places with them right now. I hope I'll wake up one day, as you said, feeling that I want to be a mommy but so far I keep waking up feeling that I want to kill my alarm clock... I agree with you. I love our independent life, and I feel that we have so many things to enjoy as a couple, first, before having kids, that I just don’t want to rush things just for the sake of it.
I already have 2 girlfriends who are pregnant (they’re 26, just like me) and I’m happy for them, but I wouldn’t trade places with them right now.
I hope I’ll wake up one day, as you said, feeling that I want to be a mommy but so far I keep waking up feeling that I want to kill my alarm clock…

]]> By: Hey Lady! http://reinventingsandyb.com/2010/02/22/stick-it-to-me-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-957 Hey Lady! Tue, 23 Feb 2010 18:16:04 +0000 http://reinventingsandyb.com/?p=1246#comment-957 Honestly, when I first started wanting a baby it was totally because i thought if I didn't I'd run out of time (yeah, thats a reason to get pregnant). It's still surreal to e, it isn't as if I'm jealous of every baby I see, or want someone elses. I just figured I'm running out of time, and I do want children, you know? Wait, did that make me sound like I'm going to be a bad parent??? Maybe that's what God is thinking too, hmmmm... And dude, you know how I told you it was all sunny and 72 degrees here 2 days ago. It's snowing. Seriously. In Texas. Like 3 inches (I know not a lot, but for Austin it is). Honestly, when I first started wanting a baby it was totally because i thought if I didn’t I’d run out of time (yeah, thats a reason to get pregnant). It’s still surreal to e, it isn’t as if I’m jealous of every baby I see, or want someone elses. I just figured I’m running out of time, and I do want children, you know?

Wait, did that make me sound like I’m going to be a bad parent??? Maybe that’s what God is thinking too, hmmmm…

And dude, you know how I told you it was all sunny and 72 degrees here 2 days ago. It’s snowing. Seriously. In Texas. Like 3 inches (I know not a lot, but for Austin it is).

]]> By: paws4thot http://reinventingsandyb.com/2010/02/22/stick-it-to-me-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-956 paws4thot Tue, 23 Feb 2010 09:13:31 +0000 http://reinventingsandyb.com/?p=1246#comment-956 And thank you too, just for, well, being you really. I agree about not having "must do by [age] life goals", a list of "things I want to experience but aren't committments for the next 16 years plus" isn't the same. Although I don't get skydiving; why do people voluntarily jump out of perfectly servicable aircraft? ;) This from a guy who goes up high buildings, tower cranes and the like, finds the glass floor/pierced steel catwalk and stands on it, then looks straight down! Yes, I do read your replies to comments; I just don't re-reply unless I've got something further to say. Ok? And thank you too, just for, well, being you really. I agree about not having “must do by [age] life goals”, a list of “things I want to experience but aren’t committments for the next 16 years plus” isn’t the same. Although I don’t get skydiving; why do people voluntarily jump out of perfectly servicable aircraft? ;) This from a guy who goes up high buildings, tower cranes and the like, finds the glass floor/pierced steel catwalk and stands on it, then looks straight down!

Yes, I do read your replies to comments; I just don’t re-reply unless I’ve got something further to say. Ok?

]]> By: emily http://reinventingsandyb.com/2010/02/22/stick-it-to-me-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-954 emily Tue, 23 Feb 2010 05:30:53 +0000 http://reinventingsandyb.com/?p=1246#comment-954 One of my best friends just called me last week to tell me that she is pregnant...with her third child. She is a year younger then me. Let me tell you, her phone call freaked me out. I am over the moon happy for her. Pumping out babies is just what she wants, but it made me want to take myself out for a drink and celebrate not being with child. I want to be a mom in a major way...but not for a while. There is no room in my life for a baby at this point. Selfish as it may be. It is true. So, congratulations. You live to buy tampons for another month (and many more). One of my best friends just called me last week to tell me that she is pregnant…with her third child. She is a year younger then me. Let me tell you, her phone call freaked me out. I am over the moon happy for her. Pumping out babies is just what she wants, but it made me want to take myself out for a drink and celebrate not being with child. I want to be a mom in a major way…but not for a while. There is no room in my life for a baby at this point. Selfish as it may be. It is true. So, congratulations. You live to buy tampons for another month (and many more).

]]> By: Debbie http://reinventingsandyb.com/2010/02/22/stick-it-to-me-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-953 Debbie Tue, 23 Feb 2010 04:00:42 +0000 http://reinventingsandyb.com/?p=1246#comment-953 Oh yes! and since I got married much later than most of my friends, I'm usually the only one being asked "when?". I started thinking about it a lot this past year after turning 35 and I feel like my age is forcing me to think about it more. I'm with you on enjoying life. My husband and I have only been married for barely 2.5 years but I worry about the old clock sometimes. Oh yes! and since I got married much later than most of my friends, I’m usually the only one being asked “when?”. I started thinking about it a lot this past year after turning 35 and I feel like my age is forcing me to think about it more. I’m with you on enjoying life. My husband and I have only been married for barely 2.5 years but I worry about the old clock sometimes.

]]> By: Carissajaded http://reinventingsandyb.com/2010/02/22/stick-it-to-me-baby/comment-page-1/#comment-952 Carissajaded Tue, 23 Feb 2010 03:52:54 +0000 http://reinventingsandyb.com/?p=1246#comment-952 I love kids. Other people's... It's not that I don't want one - maybe one day...but for now it is the furthest thing on my mind. I am also completely single, so I guess it's probably a good thing. I keep thinking that maybe my clock will start ticking loud enough for me to be aware of it, one of these days.. but so far- nothing. I love kids. Other people’s… It’s not that I don’t want one – maybe one day…but for now it is the furthest thing on my mind. I am also completely single, so I guess it’s probably a good thing. I keep thinking that maybe my clock will start ticking loud enough for me to be aware of it, one of these days.. but so far- nothing.

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