You plan. God laughs. Part II.

Ok, so it’s Saturday night-ish and I totally get that blogging on a Saturday is like, breaking a cardinal blogging rule. Or something. Word on the street is that people have better things to do than read blogs on a Saturday. But I don’t care, I’m going to post anyway. You know why? Because the mood has struck, and I’m all about blogging while I’m in the mood.  Not “the mood” though, because that’s really none of your business. Or my husband’s. Just kidding.

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So I left you with this the other day:

It has absolutely occurred to me that my List is a plan of sorts. A way of creating a path to the things that are important to me. It has absolutely occurred to me that my plan could fail. But I happened to know that there is something more powerful, more intense, more gravitational, more deluxe, and more stupendous than a plan…

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How could I do that? And then just leave with a picture of Turkey Bacon ‘n Eggs, just because I like it? Totally off-side. But you came back, and I’m glad you did. I can only hope you feel my answer was worth waiting for. Truth? it’s sort of become the corner-stone of my reinvention (I decided this last night, while drinking. Doesn’t matter). It’s my secret weapon for when [insert higher power here] decides to have at ‘er with my carefully-planned-planned-for plans. So, without further ado, the thing more mighty than a plan is…

Opportunity.

In every failed plan – from the wrong entree, to the wrong job, to the wrong guy/girl, to the wrong opener to your book – there is an opportunity to:

-Test what you are really made of
-Learn how creative your are in the face of disaster or derailment
-Feel how resilient you are
-Use your optimism
-Understand, I mean really get, how badly you want that thing that didn’t go according to plan, because if you want it bad enough, you will find an opportunity to get it

I’m going to start taking my own advice.


Since turning 29 two months ago and beginning to check things off of my “Before I Turn 30 List”, I’ve taken a good look at my life. Here’s what I’ve found:

1. Overall, I have a good life. I’ve seen people who have what most would consider “a shitty life” and you know what? That’s not me. I need to start giving myself credit for the things I have accomplished – it’s the only way to truly know what it is to be successful.

2.Taking a good look at yourself isn’t easy, but it’s always necessary.

3. If you plan to make a List To Change Your Life, be prepared to ask yourself a lot of questions. And then be prepared for the answers. (Bring ice. Sometimes the truth hurts.)

4. I’ve never really failed at anything. That’s not good. Instead, I’ve quit a whole bunch of times and in the process totally short-changed my potential. I failed to see the opportunity at times and now, at 29, I understand that it is far better to fail and get the satisfaction of having had the experience than not trying at all.

5. Regrets = bad news. If you have regrets, chances are you’ve failed to see the opportunity in said situation. Again, I’ve learned this the hard way. Attention 20-somethings!


Opportunity is the thing that lies in between the cracks of failure.

Opportunity bridges the gap between your regrets and your lessons.

Opportunity is greater than the plan.

And [insert higher power here]‘s got nothing on that.

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Lisbon, Portugal. Just because.


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6 thoughts on “You plan. God laughs. Part II.

  1. Lately whenever things don’t go exactly according to plan, I also try and remind myself of #1: my life is pretty good. I don’t have everything figured out yet but I do have a lot of things to be grateful for (good friends, family, a home I love, education). Making a mental list of these things always makes me feel better and puts things in perspective.

    The older I get the more I realize that regrets are pointless. Yes, there are things I would do differently if I had a chance to do them over, however I can help but think that if I had made different choices in some situations I might have missed out on other important experiences that have made me who I am today. You can’t change the past, so why waste energy on regrets. Learn from your experiences and move on—two things I’ve learned now that I’m in my later twenties!

  2. Um, I post on Saturdays sometimes. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, although I have no life. I’m not sure if you’re the same.

    Probably not.

    I’ve done about 10% of the things on my “Before I turn 25″ list. That makes a complete failure at life, doesn’t it..

    Crap.

  3. Two things:

    1) I love the fact that you always give me something to think about.

    2) I love that I actually am at home on a Saturday night with your blog to read.

    xo

    • Doc,Last time I saw you was SWC in early 90′s. Just stumbled on your site. Real nice work; look forawrd to reading more. Brings back good memories of some great Rangers Mar 82 – Jul 85. I’ll send a note to Jake about his Uncle Jeff Brenholdt, who was a good man and a hard Ranger. More later, and all the best to you.RLTW,Ben Clark

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